
I love this story that comes from an old Taoist parable; many of you have already heard this from other sources, but for anyone who hasn't, it's a powerful lesson regarding our tiny views of reality and how hard it can be sometimes to see the big picture, especially when we're in the midst of some turmoil in
our own lives:
The story.It begins with a poor farmer in ancient China who worked a small plot of land with his teenage son. During this time horses were considered a sign of wealth; the richest person in the province owned no more than a few of them. One day a wild horse jumped the poor farmer’s fence and began grazing on his land.
According to local law, this meant that the horse now rightfully belonged to him and his family. The son could hardly contain his joy, but the father put his hand on his son’s shoulder and said, “Who knows what’s good or bad?”
The next day the horse made its escape back to the mountains and the boy was heartbroken.
“Who knows what’s good or bad?” his father said again.
On the third day the horse returned with a dozen wild horses following. “We’re rich!” the son cried, to which the father again replied, “Who knows what’s good or bad?”
On the fourth day the boy climbed on one of the wild horses and was thrown, breaking his leg. His father ran to get the doctor; soon both of them were attending to the boy, who was upset and in a great deal of pain. The old farmer looked deeply into his son’s eyes, and said, “My son, who knows what is good or bad?”
And on the fifth day the province went to war.
Army recruiters came through the town and took all the eligible young men to fight the war, including the neighbor of the old man and his son. All except for the young man with the broken leg.
As the old man's neighbor watched his own son get taken off to fight in a war he didn't even really believe in, he said to the first old man, "You are lucky that your son was injured, so he did not get taken for the war. Now I may never see my own son again."
With a twinkle in his eye, the first old man turned and said to his neighbor, "My friend, who knows what's good or bad?"
The Conclusion.Bankruptcy. Foreclosure. Lay-offs. Dis-ease. Sickness. Divorce. War. Things break, people get old, and circumstances change sometimes beyond any possibility of recognizing even a faint glimmer of hope.
However, as the old man in the story so wisely said, "Who knows what's good or bad?" It's only after the fact that we are usually able to see how a seemingly "bad" incident may have worked out in our favor. Even then, it's important to still not label the fortunate events as "good", because that will also defeat the purpose.
Just remember that we are here to learn, we are always taken care of, and the things that "happen" in our lives have no relative meaning other than the ones you assign to them. Ask yourself repeatedly, "Who knows what's good or bad?" like the old man in the story.
Your most uncomfortable moment may inevitably lead to your greatest triumph, so just "keep calm and carry on".
Have a great weekend!